"To be loved is special. But to be understood, is profound."
A beautiful, yet truly deep revelation that was expressed by Laura during her unscripted wedding speech to her new husband Sean.
A bare utterance that has since deeply stuck with me.
Love is a complex human emotion. Unknowingly melancholic, it's attractively unusual and subtle in nature. When I first spoke to Laura and Sean I immediately knew they understood these delicate nuances in life, and it became strikingly obvious in that fleeting moment during the Bride's speech.
I could sit here and talk about how low-key the bride and groom are, how quintessential Laura and Sean it was for their wedding to have a boho vintage flair, that the Bride's two-piece wedding dress and mustard toned shoes was an acclamation to her personality and ability to set whatever trends she pleases. Or perhaps the Bride's eloquent flower crown and bouquet's colour palette. The groom's incredibly stylish floral tie? Sure, I guess I could, but to be completely forthright and sincere, this wedding wasn't about those things at all.
I will admit however, the Doctor's House in Kleinberg (just outside Toronto) provided an atmosphere that was both quaint and fitting. An intimate and emotional first look beneath the summer’s sun covered by a backyard forest with a classic white picket fence in the near distance. The small vintage and authentic chapel housed the intimate ceremony, followed by an evening inside the Doctor's House reception area overlooking a pink and purple sunset through the bay windows and taking in the candid interaction between guests. The vintage and analog details of the country house / bridal suite brought together by the ambient lighting resembled candle light as the Bride and Groom shared a moment early in the evening just after taking some portraits in the colorful sunset.
Sometimes things are a little perfect, unintentionally cinematic and editorial by nature, but really, all it really is, was two people uninhibited, persuaded by their love and reminded of the perpetual changes they've experienced with one another over the course of their lives together. This is Laura and Sean.
All of these aesthetically pleasing details are what you would imagine most photographers would want to gravitate towards or truly focus on, but for me, I've always found a deep-seated interest in connecting with my work on a personal level. After spending some time in their home area of Liberty Village, walking around, grabbing drinks, I truly got to know both Sean and Laura for the humble and down to earth people that they both are. Both being at similar point in their lives, both having an understanding and appreciate for arts and culture, it wasn't difficult to find common ground with the two of them.
I was very much looking forward to the summer day I'd have to spend in Kleinberg at the Doctor's House surrounded by the bride and groom's friends and family.
While Sean played Bocce Ball at the Local and grabbed some drinks / grub before getting ready in their beautifully decorated apartment in Liberty Village, I had the pleasure of spending time with Laura and her closest in her childhood home in West Toronto. Walking into the classic European household atmosphere that I myself grew up with, I immediately felt at home, not that I wouldn't have otherwise, but this time it was all too familiar to me. The classic blown up wedding portrait of her parents, no different than the one of my parents I spent 21 years of my life seeing when heading upstairs to my bedroom. It was clear that Laura and her squad were close, the love was felt by everyone in the room and it was contagious. Their sincere happiness and emotion when Laura revealed her fashionable two-piece wedding dress to them and her father was an exhibition of true friendship and sincerely selfless happiness for their bride-to-be BFF.
Another highly poignant moment was during the simple, yet important, group photos between Laura and her friends. During an obscure and random moment while she and her friends were chatting and getting their photo taken, Laura began to be overwhelmed by emotion and nostalgia. She was reminded of her friend’s recent wedding and how she remembers being excited to have this moment at her own wedding, excited to create an opportunity of remembrance between her and her closest friends.
Sean, being the humble and extremely likeable guy that he is, had a large crew of friends arrive via party bus, and without hesitation, they brought the same enthusiasm and energy as Sean did for the wedding day. Dances were danced, beers and wine consumed, good times were had. Not a single person, Sean included, neglected their moment to create memories with one another.
The little things. It was incredible to see both Sean and Laura have the willingness to take in those seemingly ordinary occurrences in life we often overlook and instead completely embraced them as they happen.
Who knows, as an artist maybe I'm a product of my environment, maybe Toronto is just overrun by cool, trendy, low-key casual hipsters who are getting married. and being one of them, I'm naturally involved, but honestly, when people like Laura and Sean allow me to let in and live through the experience along their side it just gives me the opportunity to create something meaningful and timeless.
I've been extremely lucky that all the couples I've worked with basically commission me more so as a documentary photographer than a true wedding photographer. I'm often so entrenched in the experience that I become an active observer manifesting my experience into photographs. If only temporarily, I become close to those around me for an opportunity to capture their innermost self to be suspended in time and , hopefully, a vessel for them to return to that very moment in time. To my own surprise, wedding photography has brought me an unusual sense of fulfillment I never expected to find with this avenue of my photography, but people like Laura and Sean, their friends, their family, really remind me that there's something beautiful and intangible about sharing in such an intimate human experience together.
Once in a while, that entire process of wedding photography becomes downright effortless. Once in a while, I manage to cross paths with individuals who are seemingly in the very same place in life as myself, people who are the same wavelength and just simply understand my work and what I'm about. Because at the end of a day, to be understood, is profound.
Song of the day
Ivy - Ruby Haunt